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"Being There"

One of the most sought after expressions of love is presence. Not many people realize this but it's true. It is not the gifts of material value, but the thought of being there. This is the most valuable gift we can give. To be there in person for the solemn or joyous occasions of our friends and dear one's, would surely make difference. Not just for the receiver but for the giver as well. For the gifts of the self, the self is renewed. It is something that we owe to one another, whatever the cost.

When we are truly present for other people, important things happened to them and to us. We renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. "Being There" is the ultimate expression of love and it lies at the very core of civility.

What occasions are most important for being there? Surely weddings and funerals head the list, birthdays, christening, anniversaries, family holidays and victory celebrations follow closely. But there are other, less obvious ways to express a sense of caring. Like visiting a sick friend, or one who has just broken off with his or her lover.

How can we bestow the gift of self?Here are some suggestions:

*Be positive about invitations:
Don't immediately think of an excuse, train yourself to say 'yes' instead of thinking of conflicts. Never say no to an invitation! This may not always be practical though there are cases where in saying 'no' is exceptional. It is the attitude that best counts. Be ready to involved yourself. Work things out and find ways to accept invitations, rather than thinking of ways to say 'no'.

*Go out of your way:
Sometimes it is difficult, but when we manage to be there, in spite of the convenience of travel, expenses or schedule. We are often surprised at what a difference our presence make.

*Make amends:
Sometimes a person mises a solemn event, feels embarrassed about it. Don't let guilt compound your absence. If you did not go to the ceremony, you can still go to the person.

***Remember that your presence can be greater gift, than any material thing you could send.***

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~"In Life many of us have done fighting in every way to survive, heard every painful truth, been in every heartbreaking scene and felt every dreadful feeling. We thought going through it will then make us realized that we have to stop the fight, to atleast save a little of ourselves. But you know whats funny? It's when it seems that we are so much tired of it, but still we can't just quit no matter how hard it is and we continue hoping that one day..well be able to find someone who could love us, not just "right" but "real"~
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